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Tips For Talking To Your Kids About Porn

Tips For Talking To Your Kids About Porn
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Tips For Talking To Your Kids About Porn

We have carefully identified this uncomfortable yet crucial topic, which worth talking about. We understand that idea to even start a conversation with our kids related to sex and porn is not only awkward but also humiliating. And many of our readers will try to skip creating such discussion post reading this article. But we will insist them to have courage and start a conversation.

We have to understand two critical points to gather more serious understanding in respect to the topic. Number one, pornography has become serious business and it is everywhere. Pornography is first access point for an individual who wants to know sex. Stats suggest that most children have access to some kind of porn before they turn 18. We as an adult understand that porn is different from real life experience but for children, it is first point of learning about sex. This can create a wrong impact in their mind and endanger their understanding of having healthy sexual relationship with their partners.

Number two, in the present era of smartphone and internet, Influence Central’s survey says that average age now for having a first phone by kids is 10.3 years old. Kids having smartphone can easily have access to porn and tracking those browsing activities will be difficult for the parents because browsing history can be cleared.

Above two pointers must have made you clear about the need of starting conversation with you kids, before they assume porn to be reality. Here are few effective ways for initiating such required conversation:

Creating Comfortable Space: We all understand that talking about porn and sex is rare and uncomfortable. In order to have that particular conversation you have to build comfortable space with your kids, where you both able to communicate clearly and take uncomfortable questions. Such space can be created by making these conversation a part of our regular talk and sharing knowledge related to sex education with kids.

Start Early: There is no appropriate time to start conversation around sex and porn. Start it as early as possible before they access porn and take it as reality. Marriage and family therapist, Shadeen Francis, who writes sex education curricula for elementary and high school recommendsParents often think 13 or 14 is the right age to bring it [up], but the introduction to the topic should really be four or five years earlier — or really whenever the parent is giving the child unsupervised access to the internet,

Focus your Tone: Discussing these topics are uncomfortable and we may feel uneasy, anxious, hesitated and there is also ample chances of turning angry, when we may come to know during conversation that our kid has already had viewed porn. Control your tone and feeling, make it humble, friendly, and casual.

Be Prepared for Uncomfortable Q&A: Having doubts is natural. Similarly, your kids will be having certain doubts during the conversation and they might ask you some uncomfortable questions. Respond to those questions in concise manner so that they understand. And prevent yourself from asking questions as this is their chance to learn.

Educate them: Other than explaining about drawbacks of porn, use this opportunity to educate them about sexual health, consent, respect and nonviolence.

Hope above tips will help you in having important conversation with your kids and guiding them on the crucial issues revolving around sexual awareness.

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